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tergiversant
Skeptic Friend
USA
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 Posted - 08/22/2001 : 16:17:54 [Permalink]
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Snake, if I may ask some personal questions?
1. What was/is the nature of your relationship?
2. How long have you been together?
3. Why do you stay together?
Just curious.
I'm quite a curious fellow myself, no problem. I don't mind answering personal questions, in fact I love to.
1. I don't know.
(Although I don't know what you mean by that either.)
2. Longer then I care to think about. Years.
3. We have both wondered that ourselves too, from time to time. I suppose the greatest reason is financial. (do you know any rich younger men?  )
Re: (1) I meant how do you both perceive your relationship. Traditional lifelong monogamy?
Something entirely else? Was your perception getting into the relationship significantly different than today?
"Nihil curo de ista tua stulta superstitione."
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Snake
SFN Addict
USA
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Posted - 08/22/2001 : 22:59:35 [Permalink]
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Re: (1) I meant how do you both perceive your relationship. Traditional lifelong monogamy?
Something entirely else? Was your perception getting into the relationship significantly different than today?
I'm really NOT trying to be funny. I still don't understand what you mean.
As far as thinking about being with someone in a life long situation, I've never thought about things like that. Life is an adventure. Other than that you have to be more specific, or I can't answer you.
And I can not speak for my partner, don't really know what he thinks about stuff like that, lol, or much of anything else!
Only thing I do know is we don't have the same taste in, Music, Movies, TV Shows, Food, or any other activities. AND what I hate the most is that he always has to have the air conditioner on in the car, Even when it's raining and I can't stand that. We fight about it more then anything.
Got any suggestions?
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Snake
SFN Addict
USA
2511 Posts |
Posted - 09/27/2001 : 23:08:46 [Permalink]
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If that person wants to be with someone else and you 'allow' it, isn't that a sign of true love?
Out of *true love*, I would permit that person to be with and have that other person from then on. Then again, permitting him/her to be with and have that other person from then on would be the best answer out of true fear of disease.
Love thyself, FIRST.
ljbrs 
Just wondering, is English not your native language? Or are you insane? Your answers have nothing to do with the 'questions' or the posts you reply to. Can you try to be a little more clear about what you are talking about?
Rap Crap is to music what Paint by Numbers is to art. |
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gezzam
SFN Regular
Australia
751 Posts |
Posted - 12/03/2001 : 18:43:16 [Permalink]
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Something that I have found.....I am engaged to get married in October 2002.....I thought I knew what love was until I met my better half.....since I have met her, the merest thought of having sex or even thinking about having sex with someone else repulses me.
I love her too much, and to hurt her in any way would be unbearable. Also I couldn't deal with the guilt and the knowledge that she couldn't trust me. Because at the moment we have each others 100% trust, and no way am I throwing that away because of some floozie.
NB. We do have an agreement that if I ever have an offer from Shania Twain I am allowed to take it.....ditto Pierce Brosnan for her.....lol
"Damn you people. Go back to your shanties." --- Shooter McGavin
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Garrette
SFN Regular
USA
562 Posts |
Posted - 12/04/2001 : 03:35:39 [Permalink]
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We do have an agreemant that if I ever have an offer from Shania Twain I am allowed to take it.
Fair enough, but keep your hands off Dana Delany and Helen Hunt. I have a real thing for attractive, intelligent ladies who alliterate.
P.S. Congratulations
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Tim
SFN Regular
USA
775 Posts |
Posted - 12/17/2001 : 10:22:10 [Permalink]
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I think it is strange how so many can equate love with sex, as if one cannot exist without the other in a meaningful relationship. Plus, then to take another leap to believe that true love can only be given to one person.
Biologically, I don't believe that we are completely monogamous. I don't have the first hand evidence available at this time, because, I have had no reason to doubt it. Honestly, neither my wife, nor myself have ever doubted it. As far as the psychology goes, I believe that it is learned behavior.
My wife and I were married as a ceremonial affirmation that we loved each other enough that we wanted to share the rest of our lives together. Our rings are a symbol of our love, and they help us to maintain those bonds. However, we have had a third element in our relationship for almost a year, who we both love very much. Though we haven't yet chosen to commit to that person for the rest of our lives, we have discussed this issue.
This may not be for everyone, but I know of no happier couples--Or trios.
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ssivakami
New Member
India
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Posted - 12/19/2001 : 01:41:40 [Permalink]
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Where's the "All" choice?
Exactly - I find both scenarios equally distressing.
"Dear God. We paid for all this stuff ourselves, so thanks for nothing."
~Bart Simpson saying grace
Actually I think everything depends on "mutual consent". Nothing else counts.
I've heard that some couples do have occasional flings with other people, with the full knowledge of each other.
BTW love that signature quote of yours.
- Sivakami.
We are a scientific civilization. That means a civilization in which knowledge and its integrity are crucial.
Science is only a latin word for knowledge .... knowledge is our destiny.
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charlie_ingle
New Member
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Posted - 12/23/2001 : 11:43:44 [Permalink]
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I voted A. 100 percent.
If my spouse was to meet someone that she became deeply emotional with, I'd be happy that she is happy.
I am a strong believer that you cannot control who you fall in love with. If there is someone else out there better than me for my spouse, I have to live with that.
With the first situation, the relationship being based primarily upon frequent sexual encounters with shallow emotional invovlement, that simply is disrespect. Not only disrespect towards me, but to my spouse who is doing it. It makes me cringe to even ponder it.
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