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Trish
SFN Addict
USA
2102 Posts |
Posted - 11/16/2001 : 23:48:15
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Most of you know that my dad has been diagnosed with Multiple Myeloma, Stage III cancer. About three weeks ago I was told he had about 3 years to live. The cancer is more aggressive than was originally thought.
Two weeks ago, I had to take my father back to the hospital. One of the vertebra in his neck has collapsed. From this, one arm has been paralyzed and causes him extreme pain. On 17 Nov he will be discharged from the hospital for home hospice care. He's refusing all chemo and other treatments except for pain management.
Because the cancer is so aggressive, the doctors are now giving him between 6 weeks and 6 months.
Thought you all would like to know. I know I caused worry for a couple of people this past week. My apologies.
It is by the goodness of God that in our country we have those three unspeakably precious things: freedom of speech, freedom of conscience, and the prudence never to practice either of them. -Mark Twain
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Boron10
Religion Moderator
USA
1266 Posts |
Posted - 11/17/2001 : 14:51:18 [Permalink]
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Trish: may the two of you be able to make the best of the time you have left.
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PhDreamer
SFN Regular
USA
925 Posts |
Posted - 11/17/2001 : 17:32:07 [Permalink]
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The coming months won't be easy but I hope beyond hope that his time is filled with comfort. As always, we are listening if you need to be heard...
There was an earthquake! A terrible flood! Locusts! It wasn't my fault, I swear to god! - Jake Blues |
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filthy
SFN Die Hard
USA
14408 Posts |
Posted - 11/17/2001 : 17:47:55 [Permalink]
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It is difficult to form the words I'd like to say.
I wish you and your father all comfort in this trying time.
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Zandermann
Skeptic Friend
USA
431 Posts |
Posted - 11/17/2001 : 18:43:39 [Permalink]
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...sending you and your family wishes that these next weeks will be as peaceful as can be, and hoping that your Dad's pain therapy is effective.
Know that we are here for you |
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Trish
SFN Addict
USA
2102 Posts |
Posted - 11/18/2001 : 03:23:44 [Permalink]
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Thank you all for your kind words, they are appreciated.
I've been avoiding making this post. He's taken a turn for the worse. When they brought him home yesterday, they nearly lost him in the ambulance. He won't eat and he won't take his pain medication. He's been uncommunicative since he was brought home. There is some concern on the part of the hospice nurse that he won't make it thru the weekend.
It is by the goodness of God that in our country we have those three unspeakably precious things: freedom of speech, freedom of conscience, and the prudence never to practice either of them. -Mark Twain |
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Gorgo
SFN Die Hard
USA
5310 Posts |
Posted - 11/18/2001 : 05:17:28 [Permalink]
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Sorry to hear, Trish, thanks for keeping us up to date.
Lisa Lisa, sad Lisa Lisa - Cat Stevens |
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Trish
SFN Addict
USA
2102 Posts |
Posted - 11/19/2001 : 11:55:14 [Permalink]
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Thank you all for your wonderful support and thoughts, they are all appreciated.
My father died at approx 5:30 MDT on 18 November 2001. He calmed down from the agitated state he'd been in since coming home on Saturday and fell asleep. Shortly after that we noticed he was no longer breathing. He went peacefully.
Thanks again.
It is by the goodness of God that in our country we have those three unspeakably precious things: freedom of speech, freedom of conscience, and the prudence never to practice either of them. -Mark Twain |
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Lisa
SFN Regular
USA
1223 Posts |
Posted - 11/19/2001 : 12:27:15 [Permalink]
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Trish I am so sorry. If you need anything, or just want to talk, call me. Lisa
If you're not living on the edge, you're taking up too much room. |
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Valiant Dancer
Forum Goalie
USA
4826 Posts |
Posted - 11/19/2001 : 12:53:02 [Permalink]
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quote:
Thank you all for your wonderful support and thoughts, they are all appreciated.
My father died at approx 5:30 MDT on 18 November 2001. He calmed down from the agitated state he'd been in since coming home on Saturday and fell asleep. Shortly after that we noticed he was no longer breathing. He went peacefully.
Thanks again.
It is by the goodness of God that in our country we have those three unspeakably precious things: freedom of speech, freedom of conscience, and the prudence never to practice either of them. -Mark Twain
Trish, I am sorry for your loss. I want to ask you if I may pray for you during these troubling times, but I don't want to insult you. I wish there was something I could say to "make it all better". But I know there isn't.
Blessed Be.
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Donnie B.
Skeptic Friend
417 Posts |
Posted - 11/19/2001 : 15:04:53 [Permalink]
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My condolences, too, go out to you and your family.
-- Donnie B.
Brian: "No, no! You have to think for yourselves!" Crowd: "Yes! We have to think for ourselves!" |
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rubysue
Skeptic Friend
USA
199 Posts |
Posted - 11/19/2001 : 16:35:07 [Permalink]
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Trish - I'm so, so sorry to hear about your Dad. My heartfelt condolences go out to you and your family. I hope that you find strength in the good memories during this difficult time.
rubysue
If your head is wax, don't walk in the sun.
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Zandermann
Skeptic Friend
USA
431 Posts |
Posted - 11/19/2001 : 17:24:32 [Permalink]
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let me add my condolences to those of the others...know that my thoughts are with you and your family |
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James
SFN Regular
USA
754 Posts |
Posted - 11/19/2001 : 18:17:51 [Permalink]
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My condolences, Trish. At least he went peacefully.
"Necessity may be the mother of invention, but laziness is usually the father." -Bailey's First Law |
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Kil
Evil Skeptic
USA
13477 Posts |
Posted - 11/19/2001 : 20:23:03 [Permalink]
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Trish,
My father went out in much the same manner last year. He died in his sleep a few days out of the hospital. It was a peaceful death. I think of him almost every day. In that way he still lives inside me.
Our condolences go out to you and your family.
David and Michelle (froydnslp)
The Evil Skeptic
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Snake
SFN Addict
USA
2511 Posts |
Posted - 11/20/2001 : 01:30:20 [Permalink]
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quote:
Thank you all for your wonderful support and thoughts, they are all appreciated.
My father died at approx 5:30 MDT on 18 November 2001. He calmed down from the agitated state he'd been in since coming home on Saturday and fell asleep. Shortly after that we noticed he was no longer breathing. He went peacefully.
Thanks again.
It is by the goodness of God that in our country we have those three unspeakably precious things: freedom of speech, freedom of conscience, and the prudence never to practice either of them. -Mark Twain
It's difficult to find the words. In time I hope the pain of your loss will ease. I'm sorry. NormaL
Rap Crap is to music what Paint by Numbers is to art. |
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